Greetings to you too! Let me begin answering you with a quote from Sacred Scripture: “All things are possible with God.” (Luke 1:37) Just because you are not currently in a relationship does not mean that you cannot discern a vocation. We are called constantly to discern God’s will in our lives. ‘Lord, what do You want of me?’ The path of discernment can be different for each person, because God is personal and loves each of us in a unique way. Many people first discern the general state in life (religious, married, single) and then discern the more specific (which Order, which spouse, etc.). Other people may discover their vocation only after or when they find the specific religious order or specific soul-mate.
As far as your 2nd question: What steps can you take to discern if you are called to marriage? The first step in any kind of discerning is PRAYER. Here is a quote from one of my favorite bloggers (Fr. John Bartunek):
“…prayer keeps the soul in tune with the Holy Spirit, assuring that you are in the best possible disposition to receive God’s grace throughout the day (and in the other sacraments) and to fulfill whatever he asks of you. It is the main spiritual exercise for everyone who is sincerely seeking to discern and follow God’s will in their life.”
A second step is to read and study about the sacrament of matrimony. Find some good Catholic reading to help you understand better what marriage is. For a few basic concepts, a simple place to start (and easy to find) is the Catechism of the Catholic Church. (You can find it online at the Official Vatican Website if you don’t have a hard copy. vatican.va )
A third step and important one is getting to know yourself. Who are you intellectually, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually? What are your desires, preferences, motivations, ways of being and reacting, etc.? What are your dreams, likes, dislikes, talents. etc.? You can get to know yourself through personal examination, but it’s also important to get feedback from people who know you (family and friends). Their views of who you are will also be very helpful.
Well, that’s at least a start for you! There are many more things that could be said, but this is only a blog…not a book! :)
God bless you! ~ Christiane